Martina Simekova is a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Coach and Time Line Therapy™ Practitioner with a mission of showing people how to excel in their business despite feeling overwhelmed by other commitments.
Today, she is going to show you how to stop feeling like an impostor.
Learn more about Martina: www.martinasimekova.com
Learn More about Daniel Tolson & Nini Tolson: https://mentaldetox.com.au/stop-self-sabotage/
Daniel Tolson (00:03):
Ladies and gentlemen, good morning, good afternoon, and good evening. Our guest today is a certified neuro linguistics programming and timeline therapy practitioner with the mission of showing people how to Excel in their business despite feeling overwhelmed by other commitments. And today she’s going to stop you from feeling like an imposter. Would you please put your hands together and help us welcome to the Mental Detox Podcast, our good friend, Martina Simekova.
Martina Simekova (00:38):
Thanks very much for having me. It’s very pleasure to to be on your show.
Daniel Tolson (00:45):
It’s always a pleasure and a Nini was complimenting you on your purple blouse, but we found out that it was blue. I think this is so true for at, you know, limit things like limiting beliefs. We think we have something that really gets in our way and then we realize it’s not. So thanks for Johnny. You see him now we understand that,uyou’d been going through different challenges in your life before we met you in 2018 and in 2018 you hopped off one path and you started to pursue another path. So before we had met in 2018 what was happening in your world and what had you been missing out on?
Martina Simekova (01:34):
Well, before I met C, I was going through a lot of different emotions, but I just felt like I’m not good enough. I can’t do any more than that. And I’ve had different professional paths. I run my own business data business for few years. I was doing okay, but I’m worse than doing brilliantly because I just didn’t feel like I decided more than I could have. The emotions of I really stuck with me. I guess it was something from my childhood. I’ve always been compared to my siblings, well, they have achieved and I haven’t done that well. They, they didn’t really realize that I’m much younger than they are and I’m still ahead of time. I’m still doing my best and am really just, well, it’s failing load that I couldn’t do any better because no one believed me and I started to not believing in myself and that carry on through my whole adult hoods and teenage years.
Martina Simekova (02:43):
Mmm. So I started to work on myself and I’ve come across with Daniels some of the promotions and I was like, yeah, I need some of that. So I w always liked NLP. So I looked more into it. Def contacted Daniel and I never felt more of that. In the meantime, I always worked on myself on my self belief. And my mindset was a huge deal breaker for me. I spent hours and hours looking for solutions and I couldn’t find them. So until I started working you, Danielle, that was my biggest deal breaker. I’ve realized that my beliefs were so deep ingrained within me that it didn’t matter how much I’ve listened to magic. You listen to a podcast or motivational speakers or given or same affirmations, it didn’t really matter because my unconscious mind didn’t believe that I could have more on sale. I started working with DEI and I’ve discovered that there were so many ingrained negative emotions within me. It would have taken me a lifetime to go with a fit. And you’ve managed to do it within few days. And I remember crying on every single day. [inaudible] Oh my God, look how I black.
Daniel Tolson (04:21):
Well, well thank you for the nice compliment that you did the work. You’re the one who chose to make the change and that’s the most important thing. And you’ve been through a lot and you’ve been, you’ve achieved incredible success throughout that time. So what does it feel like to be an imposter? What does it feel like to have that imposter syndrome? And if you could articulate some of these excuses that you’d make for yourself, just so the people who are watching understand what imposter syndrome is and how it’s truly impacting them
Martina Simekova (05:00):
For made was, although I’ve had the training with DIA, it was very intense and I’ve learned so much. I didn’t believe that I’m good enough. I didn’t believe that I have enough knowledge for people to listen to me, for people actually wanting to hear what I’ve got to say. So I had that tendency of not showing up when I was meant to. I wasn’t doing the things that I needed to do for my business to grow. I started making excuses. I’ve started to procrastinating and I was telling myself sermon X cases, why can’t do, no, I can’t show up. I am. For me the biggest problem was I didn’t believe, yeah, it’s again, I wasn’t good enough that I didn’t deserve the success, which was within my rage. So some I would break my comfort zone and I did show up and it felt great.
Martina Simekova (06:04):
But the next day able to be back to the same story. It’s just something I fell within me and I needed to work on it every single day. I’m Joe, I have enough knowledge. Am I good enough? Is there anyone interested to hear what I’ve got to say that it was something that I tacos every single day and I had to work really, really hard so he’s get over it. I couldn’t do it myself. I hired another coach after our training and we’ve worked together for nine months and I worked really hard, say, get out of my comfort zone, ships, push the limits. I never thought, I would say
Daniel Tolson (06:47):
It’s such an amazing insight because these things with the work that Nini and I do, everything we do is content free. What you don’t, we don’t know your previous history before we meet you in and we say it’s not a major concern about when we do our work. We don’t particularly want to know because it doesn’t influence the work that we do, but to hear how you describe that and articulate it, that’s going to help a lot of other women and men who are going through the same problem. They’re going to be able to see that this is imposter syndrome, but it also demonstrates that if you’re willing to work hard on yourself, you can make a big change and, and we can see it in you. Just how much you’ve changed since 2018 huge changes.
Martina Simekova (07:34):
Thank you very much. It took a lot of hard work to get here.
Nini Tolson (07:37):
Yeah. Imagine was it worth it?
Martina Simekova (07:45):
Yes. I bet. If I had to think about what I had to go through, all the pain, all the emotions, everything [inaudible] going through the memories of my childhood. I do possibly I’ll have some hesitations, but yes, it was a mobile thing. Definitely.
Nini Tolson (08:06):
Yeah. So, so for Martina, for our audience out there, we probably would have, you know, quite a lot of people probably sharing the same experiences. You what kind of practical idea or the tips that you can share with us or with our audience that they can learn today and stop feeling like an impostor and in the self-sabotage?
Martina Simekova (08:30):
Well, first of all, I acknowledge that there is a problem. I acknowledge what the problem is, the way then where it’s coming from. Writes a diary how you speak to yourself on every single day. Talk down to yourself, Jay, are you negative ice surrounding? Wait, I got to say, and that was the biggest problem for me. I had to literally out all the negativity out of my life. [inaudible] Friends, I don’t spend as much time with them. Everything. I had to limit myself to the negativity and work really hard to find something which made me happy. And the ice something which took a lot of hard thinking deep within what really enlightens me and lifts me up. [inaudible] But I just needed to work on myself. Yeah. Limits. Then it got switched around J and just get out of their comfort zone because this is well above that [inaudible] it’s not easy. It’s very well worth it.
Daniel Tolson (09:41):
And being somebody who has overcome this in their own life, you’re now helping other women do the same. So for people who are going through that imposter syndrome, people who as self-sabotaging people who are dads themselves, people who told them. So if that what you’ve got to say isn’t worthy and why would somebody listen, how can people start to connect with you? What’s the best place for them to go to start to learn more about what you do?
Martina Simekova (10:10):
They can find me on social media. I cross all the platforms on the [inaudible] dot com so I’ve got the websites they can go say I’m on LinkedIn amongst Facebook so they can find out all the information on the social media on the [inaudible].
Daniel Tolson (10:30):
Okay. So it’s not Taina Shima, cover.com M a R T, I N a S, I M a K ova.com and Ninian Alec will also paste this in the feed below. And I’d encourage you that if you’ve been held back by self sabotage is connect with Martina today. I tend to, I know it’s a very brave of you to share that today and we’re also very proud of you and congratulations for the good work that you’ve done.
Martina Simekova (11:00):
Yeah, thank you very much for having me. I’m, I could not have done it without you to start off with site. Thank you very much. I’m really grateful to have you in my life. Bye. Thank you.
Daniel Tolson (11:13):
Pleasure. Well, thank you for joining us. Thank you for sharing your story. And ladies and gentlemen, make sure you connect with Martina today wherever you are. Have a wonderful day. Ciao. For now.